Parenting Tips: Follow these 5 ways for better conversation with teenage children..

How was school today? It was fine. How was the outing with friends? It was just fine. If your conversation with your teenage child is also limited to these one or two words, then you are not alone. This (Talking with Teenagers) has become the biggest challenge for every parent.

But have you ever wondered why the child who once shared every small and big thing with you has become so distant from you today? Every parent has to face the problem that their child does not talk to them openly. Due to this, distance also starts to be felt between them. But by knowing the real reason behind this, you can easily deal with this problem (Parenting Tips). Let's know how.

Why do teenagers not talk openly?

Actually, during their teenage years, i.e., 13-19 years, children go through 'identity vs role confusion'. They want to create a separate identity for themselves, but they are also searching for their role. This distance is a part of a natural psychological process, but it does not mean that you cannot connect with them.

The biggest complaint: "We are not heard."
The biggest complaint of teenagers is that they are not heard seriously. They fear that if they tell about their mistake or problem, they will be scolded instead of being advised, they will be judged, or their morale will be lowered by repeating old things. This fear forces them to remain silent. However, the good news is that with some small and smart changes, you can reduce this distance and build a relationship where your child can talk to you openly.

5 effective ways to get along better with teenagers
'Car-talk' will help
Teenagers do not like the pressure of serious face-to-face conversation. Instead, start the conversation while travelling in the car. They feel more comfortable and open by not making eye contact. Keep in mind that the questions should not be answered in 'yes or no'. Ask questions like "What was the funniest thing that happened at school today?" to get them talking.

Before giving advice, ask: "What do you want?"

Whenever your child comes up with a problem, first ask him - Do you want my advice, or do you just want to listen to me? This makes the child feel that you respect his emotions and ability to make decisions.

Do not make the conversation formal.

There is no need to make them sit on the sofa and create an atmosphere like a formal meeting to talk about big issues. It is better to keep the conversation normal. Start the conversation in a light-hearted manner while cooking, watching TV, or doing some work.

Control your reaction

If your child tells you something that shocks you or makes you angry, control your reaction. Showing surprise, disappointment, or anger on your face will make him stop talking immediately. Instead, take a deep breath and stay calm. By doing this, he will get rid of the fear from his mind that you will scold him.

Don't judge
Don't always put your point like a judge, but show excitement like a friend. Instead of "Why did you do this?" ask questions like "I want to understand why you needed to take this decision?" This will not scare the child, but he will put his thoughts in front of you.

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